What dialogue does your inner voice indulge in? Does it motivate you?
Does your inner voice serve your purpose? Or does it whisper words of negativity?
Does it harm you rather than help you? Is it more an inner-critic than an inner-voice?
When it enters the realm of unreasonable negativity you’re indulging in negative self-talk.
Especially when you are job searching, an activity that almost everyone finds innately challenging and stressful, negative self-talk is only going to drag you down and harm your self-confidence.
Self-talk is what psychologists call the inner dialogue you carry on with yourself. It’s usually filled with conscious and subconscious beliefs that started in your childhood.
It’s also a habit that you can reprogram if you want different results. You can convince yourself that you’re inadequate or you can remind yourself that you have the potential to learn and grow and achieve that new job you’ve been dreaming about. Positive self-talk builds your confidence and makes it easier to persevere, even when your job search drags on longer than you expected.
You must learn how to take control of your self-talk. Here’s what you really need to know.
Your negative self-talk can trick you into believing it’s grounded.
“I’m awkward and tongue-tied at networking events, so it’s safer for me to avoid them.”
Your negative self-talk can be cruel.
“I’m not qualified for anything. Nobody will ever want to hire me.”
Your negative self-talk can feel realistic.
“I didn’t get the job, so I guess that proves I’m awful at interviewing.”
Your negative self-talk can be total fantasy.
“Even if I am hired for that job I really want, I’ll fail. My career will never progress.”
These musings often sound familiar – like a critical friend, boss, teacher, or parent. It’s easy to start believing them when they mimic words and ideas that have already been expressed to you.
Negative self-talk tends to catastrophize and blame. It’s the inner dialogue that limits your progress, derides your abilities, and prevents you from achieving your personal and professional potential. Negative self-talk is a thought that lessens your ability to effect positive changes in life, and when job searching, your career. It isn’t just stressful and anxiety-producing; it’s stunting your professional success.
Negative self-talk can be damaging. When you focus on the negative it kills your motivation. It makes you feel helpless and powerless and contributes to symptoms of anxiety and depression.
5 Ways to Combat Negative Thinking with Positive Self Talk
If you want your self-talk to benefit your job search and career in positive ways, then you have to learn how to minimize the negative aspects of your self-talk. Here’s how!